When it comes to wedding responsibilities, your first and most important duty is easy: Be your daughter’s rock. Wedding planning can be stressful and your daughter is sure to have plenty of questions about traditions, vendors and roles. Share your wealth of knowledge with her, be a shoulder to lean on and the first smiling face she sees when she puts on “the dress.”
Now that your daughter is engaged, the hunt is on for her perfect wedding dress! An event the two of you have been looking forward to for years, wedding dress shopping is an exciting, but sometimes stressful, experience. Be there for your daughter, providing support and an honest opinion throughout this joyful process.
Once your daughter has found her dream dress, it’s time to start searching for yours. Whether your daughter wants to accompany you on this excursion or you are shopping on your own, talk to her about color and style ahead of time. After you find your dress, take the time to call the groom’s mom to let her know about your choice. This tradition helps her to choose a dress that compliments yours and will make her feel like a welcome member of the planning process.
Help ease the stress of wedding planning by allowing your daughter to provide the venue, florist, caterer and other vendors your phone number. Be their go-to contact for questions and scheduling to ensure the big day goes smoothly and your daughter doesn’t have too much on her plate.
The Guest List
Putting together a guest list is tough – especially when you have a big family. Make this task easier for the happy couple by providing them with a list of relatives and their addresses. Offer to help mail out invitations and lend your ear for seating chart questions.
Research traditions that your daughter and her future spouse may want to include in their big day. They are sure to have plenty of questions throughout the planning process, so be there to provide answers or help them find answers to the questions you don’t know. Uncover a family heirloom for your daughter’s “something old” and work with the bridal party to make sure she has her “something new” and “something blue” as well.
Bridal Shower and Rehearsal Dinner
While the mother of the bride does not traditionally host the bridal shower, it is important for her to attend at least one of these events. If your daughter and her girlfriends are hosting a separate shower, tactfully decline and choose to attend the event with the other family members instead.
Typically hosted by the groom’s family, the rehearsal dinner is another event the mother of the bride must attend. Get grandma and your other children together to ensure everyone is there to prep for the big day.
On the morning of the big day, be there bright and early to let your daughter know how much you love her and how proud you are of her. Calm her nerves and share a few quiet words as you button up her dress and straighten her veil. Remind her and the girls to eat and help smooth over any last minute surprises that may occur.
Once your daughter is ready to walk down the aisle, it’s your job to greet guests as they arrive at the ceremony. Once everyone is in attendance and it is time for the ceremony to begin, you will be escorted to your seat by an usher.
After the ceremony, your hostess skills will be brought into play again as you mingle with guests at the reception. Whether your daughter includes a receiving line into the reception or not, be sure to say hello to everyone and thank them for sharing in her day.
The vows have been said and the celebrations are well under way! Give yourself a moment to relax and get ready to participate in the traditional first-dance sequence, where you will dance with the father of the bride and the groom. Once these last duties have been completed, enjoy yourself and take a step back to watch your daughter’s glowing smile.
Be your daughter’s rock and let her know that you are there for her every step of the way as she prepares for her wedding day. While you may want to be involved in every detail of the planning, give the happy couple their space and let them come to you when help is needed. Enjoy this beautiful time in your daughter’s life and welcome the in-laws with open arms.
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