Ask any recently engaged couple; choosing your wedding party – especially the best man and maid of honor – is tough to do. Deciding who to ask to be a part of this group is a big decision, so take your time, talk to your significant other and ultimately do what makes you feel the most comfortable. Still need some help? Ask yourself a few questions while making your decisions.
Before calling all of your college roommates, your sister and your best friend from high school, think about the size of your wedding. The average number of attendants is eight, but depending on the size and formality of your wedding, you may want to go larger or smaller. It’s your big day, so feel free to ask as many or as few friends as you would like. One benefit to keeping it small: It is much easier to plan dress fittings, your bridal shower and the bachelorette.
Your sister is probably the first person on your list of bridesmaids, but what about your future sister-in-law? Even if you aren’t close to your significant other’s siblings, they’re going to be around for years to come, so consider including both your sets of siblings in the wedding ceremony. You will probably grow closer through the years and your soon-to-be spouse will appreciate the gesture to involve their siblings. If you come from a big family, there are plenty of roles other than bridesmaid and groomsman, including ushers and ceremony readers to make everyone feel included.
Especially when it comes to choosing the maid of honor, consider not only who you are closest to, but who you can rely on the most. From mailing invitations and making centerpieces to planning the bachelorette party, this individual will take on a big role throughout the planning process. Choose someone who knows your likes and dislikes and can be there through it all.
If you are struggling between two best friends or your best friend and your sibling, think about who will be able to provide you with the most support, both mentally and physically. Does your best friend live a couple hours away? Does your sister have a new baby? Pick the person who has the time and energy to help you through the planning process. You may find the other relived to take on the smaller role. Or, if you are still struggling, consider having a maid and matron of honor. The splitting up of tasks and duties will make both women’s lives easier and it will provide you with the wedding experience of the married woman and the fun-loving excitement of your single friend!
Regardless of whom you choose for what role in your wedding party, this dilemma is a good thing. It shows just how much love and support you and your other half have in your lives! No matter what decision you make, your friends and family will be there for you through it. Follow your instincts and enjoy the planning process with those closest to you. The big day will be here sooner than you think and everyone will be there, happily celebrating your love with you.
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